Parents set standards for their child by talking about the things they used to do when they were of their kid’s age. This is likely to additional pressure on your child. Instead, it is important that you understand today's generation and set realistic expectations.
If you are unable to understand your kid's situation as a parent, put yourself in his/her shoes. Understand that your teen is going through emotional stress and accept the fact that what may not be a big deal to you could be an issue your child.
A free, two-way communication between parents and kid is most important. Engage in activities that involve bonding with your child, be it going for movies or dinners together. Working parents, especially, find it difficult to spend sufficient time with their kid and this may lead to lack of communication.
“A friendly environment will encourage your kid to share his/her worries with you."
A parent’s job is to show the right path in those situations, in non-authoritarian way.
While it is important to monitor what your child is upto, it is equally essential to know when to back off and respect his/her privacy. Giving your kid his/her space will ensure that he/she turns into an independent adult.
At this age, your kid is looking more for a friend in you rather than a strict parent.
“Often, parents have tears in their eyes when they come to me seeking help because their child is not talking to them. You need to be patient. Take interest in your kid’s friends and if you are objecting to any particular behaviour of your kid, give a reason.”
